Reckoning with the past and the present in “these uncertain times”
When I look back on that 3 year-old celebrating his mom's 30th birthday, it feels like yesterday and makes me feel very nostalgic! The older I get, the more I feel like I am revisiting the thoughts, dreams and feelings I had as a child. That is something I plan to write about some day ... maybe on Substack?
Reading this as only a 14 year old I can only relate to so many things in this story but this message was said amazingly and I loved reading this so much. I cannot say nearly as much as grandma has said but great job JD I enjoyed listening to your message.
JD what a thoughtful process and voyage you have started. I think your generation has so much more to offer. my generation just accepted motherhood and fatherhood and parenting as a process that was expected of each and every individual we did our best We started to read Spock and get some pediatric knowledge and understanding. I think my nursing pushed me far ahead of that. But never did we go so deep. we knew what was right and morally acceptable and taught right and wrong and expected proper behavior and respect. Each child was at different levels of ability and skills/ each individual showed a specific desire for what they felt most comfortable, and we cherished that and supported that and encouraged that. there was none of this everybody is given a medal for participation, which to me is very damaging .I think your inner understanding of human personality and development is admirable but a lot of human behavior was done by the seat of our pants and I think you all turned out pretty well. That being said it doesn’t mean that you can’t do better but just love your children deeply keep them safe and make sure they know you love them and cherish them. your father always said to me “mom I always knew you loved us”and that has stuck by me all these years. God bless you I love hearing your thoughts and understanding your perspective.
my love grandma